We were created for human interaction and more importantly with a big empty need for love. We are imperfect creatures and therefore try to satisfy that desire with other imperfect solutions. Thus our devastation when rejection ensues. One day I came home from soccer practice stressed, exhausted, and crying. I didn't know what to do or where to go, and I really couldn't handle someone telling me so. In the moment it felt like my whole world was falling apart, even though it was just one moment, one rejection. I wasn't upset because someone snapped at me, or I made a bad pass. I was falling apart because I hadn't allowed myself to feel. That one moment of rejection, of hurt, was like kicking off the cap of a soda bottle after shaking it up for the past five minutes. But even after I got myself back in order, you know what I really wanted? I wanted to feel valued, appreciated, and acknowledged. I wanted to belong.
We are so often hurt and disappointed when we are rejected. Why? Why do we care about such superficial things and human approval? It's because we are human. We were created for human interaction and more importantly with a big empty need for love. We are imperfect creatures and therefore try to satisfy that desire with other imperfect solutions. Thus our devastation rejection ensues. Me trying to feel like I matter through a sport and a flawed human coach's opinion, is no different than a toddler trying to stuff a a square shaped piece in a circle shaped hole. So what's our solution? As it is for every other dilemma in our life: it's surrendering our pride and falling into the arms of our perfect Creator who created us to be loved by Him. Placing our value and our identity into any temporary earthly thing, will only lead to pain. Maybe in the moment it feels good, but the minute it goes away, we are left alone and empty again. God made you, He desires you, He loves you, and He accepts you. You don't have to clean up your act or make yourself "presentable". He just wants your true authentic self in his perfect and loving arms.
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