Ever since I could remember, I've dreamed of getting asked to a ball by a prince charming. As I got older I realized that my dream was a little out there, so I settled for even a date to the school dance. My freshman year of high school, I was so sure that some really handsome guy would ask me in a grand way. As I sat there waiting for my prince to show, these other girls I knew were getting asked with candies and flowers. When the dance actually came, I pretended to be this confident maiden who didn't need saving, while inside I was crushed that no guy wanted to take me. If you think not having a date to the dance was what I was upset about, you're clearly missing the point I'm trying to make. It wasn't that I didn't have a guy on my arm, it was that in my little fourteen year old heart, I felt unwanted. I had already had this existing insecurity of not meeting others standards, and this little dance had validated that in my head.
When situations come up that will inevitably prove or disprove our insecurities, we start to panic. Instead of chasing after what God says about us, we look for affirmation in other things. I did it when I sat there wide eyed waiting for a scared freshman boy to be valiant and ask me to a stupid dance, and I continue to do it as I get older in different ways. If we look to the world for affirmation, it'll only leave us more wounded than we were before. Other empty people can't fill us, only Christ can. He is the one who can affirm you in the heart fulfilling way, everyone desires. If I would've leaned on Him and believed Him when He said that I am more precious than any jewel, I wouldn't have needed that date to fulfill me. (Proverbs 3:15) I'm not saying it is wrong to want to be liked, I'm saying it is wrong to need to be liked. So don't make the same mistake I did, don't count on the world to be your savior, because you'll be disappointed. Let God fill you up so much that you overflow out onto everyone else. Don't allow the world to tell you who you are and who you aren't. You are a child of The Creator of this world and if that's not good enough for them then they're not good enough for you.
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